It seems like everyone is doing a “One Word” theme for 2014.
At first, I roll my eyes. I don’t need to define my life and goals for a year with one word. I’m focused enough. Legalist Me says “It’s always God anyway” and Mystic Me says “It’s always Love anyway” (and yes, that’s kind of one of the same).
Already procrastinating on two of my
resolutions goals for 2014 – working out 3-5x/week and running 150 miles this year – I make sure the world hasn’t ended because of my absence from Twitter the last few days.
I see my friend Sarah Mae tweet a link to a post about a gal named Dana who makes her word for 2014 Mike, her husband. In it, she links back to the post where Sarah Mae makes her word for 2014 Jesse, who’s Sarah Mae’s husband.
Then I say dangit, because I felt smacked upside my head with a burlap sack of coffee beans (drinking coffee: something I have yet to also do this morning).
We haven’t even been married but ten months, but somehow in those ten months my selfishness, my snark, and my stubbornness get in the way of a great marriage. My baggage, my lack of trust, oh – and did I mention my selfishness? – can put a wall up between us.
I already had a list of resolutions: spiritual, physical and career and I’m not going to abandon them. However, I’m looking over them all and making sure they are in line with the obvious responsibility of loving, respecting, and placing Tim as a priority in my thoughts and actions, words and deeds.
One of my goals was to reboot the “Change Me” prayer I wrote about last year; I recognize I cannot change anyone, Tim included. But I can pray to change myself. I choose to accept him and his strengths and weaknesses, to love him, to care for him, to support him, to encourage him, to do what I can to propel him forward in his faith and in his career (a fabulously gifted man behind a camera).
There are so many ways to be PC online: don’t make resolutions (or call them goals, instead). Make them. Post them. Don’t share them. Everyone has their own opinion about it, so, please do as you please.
However, don’t be like me and be closed off to the idea of doing something – like creating a word for 2014 that is your theme word – and miss out on an opportunity to do something amazing.
And maybe even for someone else.